Join the 28-Day Secure Self Challenge
Rebuild your relationship with yourself through daily practices in self-compassion, self-regulation, self-advocacy, and self-trust.
If you’ve struggled with self-doubt, overthinking, people-pleasing, or harsh self-criticism, you know how exhausting it can be.
The 28-Day Secure Self Challenge offers a clear, supportive framework to shift those patterns and lay the foundation for deeper self-worth and confidence — in both life and love.
Do any of these sound familiar?
You criticise yourself for not being “enough” (or for being “too much.”)
You over-function in relationships, carrying the weight of making things work.
You struggle to trust your own judgment, constantly doubting yourself and asking others what you should do.
You hold back parts of yourself for fear that if you were fully seen, you wouldn’t be loved or accepted.
You replay conversations in your head, worrying whether you said or did the wrong thing.
You apologise excessively even when you haven’t actually done anything to warrant it.
You say “yes” when you really mean “no,” because you don’t want to upset or disappoint anyone.
You suppress your needs, then feel resentful and hurt when they go unmet.
You feel guilty taking time for yourself — or perhaps even confused about what you really want and need.
If you relate to some or all of these —
That’s what the Secure Self Challenge is here to guide you through.
Becoming more secure isn’t about having everything “figured out” or being perfect. It’s about showing up for yourself in small, consistent ways — choosing compassion over criticism, steadiness over confusion, and self-trust over self-abandonment.
BUT IT DOESN'T HAVE TO STAY THIS WAY.
Many of us were never taught how to have a healthy, supportive relationship with ourselves.
So it’s little wonder we end up in relationships or situations that don’t truly serve us. When we’re deeply disconnected from ourselves, it becomes almost impossible to feel secure with others.
you’re not alone.
INTRODUCING
THE 28-DAY SECURE SELF CHALLENGE
The Secure Self Challenge is a 28-day guided program designed to help you strengthen your inner foundation of self-worth, step by step.
Over four weeks, we’ll explore the core pillars of a secure self:
Week 01
Self-Compassion
Learn to soften the voice of your inner critic and respond to yourself with curiosity and kindness. As you begin to understand where your patterns came from, you’ll find that growth becomes possible without shame as the driving force.
Week 02
Self-Regulation
Go beyond surface-level fixes and start tending to your real needs — emotional, physical, and nervous-system based. You’ll discover what true nourishment feels like, and begin building a sense of safety that comes from within.
Week 03
Self-Advocacy
Clarify your values, strengthen your boundaries, and raise the standard for how you show up — both for yourself and in your relationships. This week is about honouring your needs without guilt and learning to hold your own limits with grace.
Week 04
Self-Trust
Rebuild confidence in your own judgment and inner wisdom. You’ll learn to distinguish between fear and intuition, make peace with uncertainty, and begin living from a place of grounded self-leadership.
HOW IT WORKS
The Secure Self Challenge is designed to be simple and manageable. Each week you’ll receive:
Daily 3-5 minute audio lessons on that week's theme
A guided meditation to support deeper integration
A practical homework exercise to bring the work into your daily life
Two live group coaching calls with me where you can ask questions and receive personalised support.
A pop-up online community to connect with others in the challenge, share wins, and stay accountable.
You’ll also get access to:
All up, you’ll only need to set aside about an hour per week. And you’ll have six months of access to the materials, with the option to download and keep them forever.
What Becomes Possible:
Practise meeting yourself with compassion instead of constant criticism.
Strengthen your ability to honour your values and recognise your needs before they’re pushed aside.
This for you if:
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You’re ready to build a healthier, more supportive relationship with yourself — no matter your attachment style.
You prefer small, digestible practices you can apply right away — rather than long lessons or heavy content.
You’d value being part of a supportive community — connecting with others who are doing this work too, sharing insights, encouragement, and accountability along the way.
It's probably for you if...
not
You’re looking for a comprehensive, theory-based course with in-depth video modules and workbooks (for that, you might explore Healing Anxious Attachment).
You’d rather work entirely on your own and aren’t interested in a community element or shared experience.
You’re not open to trying new tools or perspectives that might challenge your usual ways of relating to yourself.