Join the
Secure Self Challenge
An 8-week challenge to rebuild your relationship with yourself through self-compassion, self-regulation, self-advocacy, and self-trust.
If you’ve struggled with self-doubt, overthinking, people-pleasing, or harsh self-criticism, you know how exhausting it can be.
The Secure Self Challenge offers a clear and comprehensive framework to shift those patterns and lay the foundation for deeper self-worth and confidence — in both life and love.
Do any of these sound familiar?
You criticise yourself for not being “enough” (or for being “too much.”)
You over-function in relationships, carrying the weight of making things work.
You struggle to trust your own judgment, constantly doubting yourself and asking others (or the Internet) what you should do.
You hold back parts of yourself for fear that if you were fully seen, you wouldn’t be loved or accepted.
You replay conversations in your head, worrying whether you said or did the wrong thing.
You apologise excessively even when you haven’t actually done anything to warrant it.
You say “yes” when you really mean “no,” because you don’t want to upset or disappoint anyone.
You suppress your needs, then feel resentful and hurt when they go unmet.
You feel guilty taking time for yourself — or perhaps even confused about what you really want and need.
If you relate to some or all of these —
That’s what the Secure Self Challenge is here to guide you through.
Stepping into your secure self doesn't mean life suddenly becomes effortless and relationships are smooth sailing. It means you start showing up for yourself in small, consistent ways — learning to reach for compassion rather than shame, self-respect instead of self-abandonment, and self-trust in the face of uncertainty.
BUT IT DOESN'T HAVE TO STAY THIS WAY.
Many of us were never taught how to have a healthy, supportive relationship with ourselves.
So it’s little wonder we end up in relationships or situations that don’t truly serve us. When we’re deeply disconnected from ourselves, it becomes almost impossible to feel truly at ease with others.
you’re not alone.
INTRODUCING
THE SECURE SELF CHALLENGE
The Secure Self Challenge is an 8-week guided program designed to help you strengthen your inner foundation of self-worth, step by step.
Over eight weeks, we’ll explore the core pillars of a secure self:
Weeks 1 & 2
Self-Compassion
Learn to soften the voice of your inner critic and respond to yourself with curiosity and kindness. As you begin to understand where your patterns came from, you’ll find that growth becomes possible without shame as the driving force.
Weeks 3 & 4
Self-Regulation
Go beyond surface-level fixes and start tending to your real needs — emotional, physical, and nervous-system based. You’ll discover what true nourishment feels like, and begin building a sense of safety that comes from within.
Week 5 & 6
Self-Advocacy
Clarify your values, strengthen your boundaries, and raise the standard for how you show up — both for yourself and in your relationships. This module is about honouring your needs without guilt and learning to hold your own limits with grace.
HOW IT WORKS
4 comprehensive video modules to work through in your own time
Written notes and reflection questions to deepen your understanding
Guided meditations for integration
4 live group coaching calls with Steph to ask questions and get individual support
8 weeks inside a private community to connect with others in the challenge, share wins, and stay accountable
You’ll also get access to:
Spend 8 weeks with me diving deep into who you really are underneath the fear — and laying the foundations to start embodying your secure self.
Bonus #1
8 Weeks of Private Community Access
You'll get 8 weeks inside our private community — where you can connect with other students, ask questions, and get feedback from me.
A beautiful way to create both connection and accountability as you do the work with others who know exactly what it feels like to be where you are.
valued at US$297
Plus... your bonus package —
valued at US$1000+
Bonus #2
4 Live Q&A Calls
This is your opportunity to connect with me directly, ask questions about your specific situation, and receive personalised guidance as you move through the work. You can bring relationship challenges, emotional blocks, or any other questions — and we’ll work through them together.
You’ll also learn so much from hearing others coached live, which always offers so much clarity and compassion.
valued at US$200
Bonus #3
28 Days of Mini-Lessons on Self-Worth
I previously ran the Secure Self Challenge as a 28-day challenge. This time, I've decided to transform it into a more comprehensive 8-week program — but at the end of your 8 weeks, you'll receive the original 28 day-challenge audios as a parting gift. Use these daily audios to integrate all your learnings, or as a refresher down the track if ever you need it.
In short, you're getting two programs for the price of one!
valued at US$197
Bonus #4
Private Podcast Feed
If sitting down to watch videos isn’t realistic for you, this makes the program way easier to integrate into your life. You’ll receive a private podcast feed so you can listen to every lesson on the go — in the car, on a walk, or while doing everyday tasks.
It’s a simple way to stay connected to the work without needing to carve out extra time in front of a computer.
valued at US$147
Bonus #5
Guest Workshop with Natalie Kennedy
I'm so excited to be bringing my friend and fellow relationship coach Natalie Kennedy into the program to deliver a guest workshop on self-trust in relationships. Natalie will bring her signature wisdom, insight, and radical honesty to sharing about how to trust yourself — and your life — more.
valued at US$147
Over US$1000 in exclusive bonuses —included free when you join TODAY!
What Becomes Possible:
Practise meeting yourself with compassion instead of constant criticism.
Strengthen your ability to honour your values and recognise your needs before they’re pushed aside.
The Secure Self Challenge will initiate you into a more compassionate, confident, and trustworthy relationship with yourself.
Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for everything else in your life.
From there, anything is possible.
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QUESTIONS
Is this a live program? When does it start?
The Secure Self Challenge is an 8-week live program kicking off on 27 July 2026. The modules are pre-recorded for you to work through in your own time, so the core curriculum is not "live" — but we'll all be doing the program together as a cohort and we'll have live group calls every second week to connect, ask questions, and integrate the learnings. I find this balance works best as we have students all over the world, as it allows people to fit the coursework in around their schedules.
How is this different to the previous Secure Self Challenge?
I've run a 28-Day Secure Self Challenge since February 2024 — but having just finished writing a book about these same themes, I felt called to build the challenge out into a deeper, full-length offering. So rather than the previous format of bite-sized daily audio lessons over four weeks, you'll get more comprehensive teachings on the same themes in video and audio format, with accompanying written materials. And in case you have FOMO about the old challenge format — you'll also get the original 28-Day Challenge audios as a graduation gift at the end of our 8 weeks together :)
Is this only for people who are [single / in a relationship]?
Nope — the very premise of this program is that it's about you, not your relationship. If you're looking for a course to help troubleshoot relationship issues directly, this isn't it. The Secure Self Challenge is about becoming the most secure, confident, and empowered version of yourself, and trusting that whatever flows from that is the right thing.
Is this only for people who are [single / in a relationship]?
Nope — the very premise of this program is that it's about you, not your relationship. If you're looking for a course to help troubleshoot relationship issues directly, this isn't it. The Secure Self Challenge is about becoming the most secure, confident, and empowered version of yourself, and trusting that whatever flows from that is the right thing.
Is this only for anxiously attached people?
No, this program is suitable for anyone who wants to build a healthier relationship with themselves. Unlike my Healing Anxious Attachment program which is very explicitly centred on understanding the inner workings of the anxious attachment style and all its manifestations, The Secure Self Challenge is about laying the foundations for a healthy inner relationship, so that you can experience healthier relationships with others.
That said, in the interests of transparency, the majority of my students tend to be anxious attachers, and so my examples will generally be drawn from the anxious attachment experience. If you have, for example, a fearful avoidant attachment style, the core teachings will absolutely help you on your journey, even if every example doesn't exactly resonate.
When are the live calls? What if I can't attend?
The live calls will be in Weeks 2, 4, 6 and 8 of the program, and will take place on Wednesdays at 8am Sydney time. All calls will be recorded, and you'll be invited to pre-submit a question for me to answer in the event that you're unable to join live. If time zone conversion hurts your brain as much as it does mine, here's a little cheat sheet:
Sydney, Australia — Wednesday 8am
New York, USA — Tuesday 6pm
Los Angeles, USA — Tuesday 3pm
London, UK —Tuesday 11pm
If there's anything I've missed and you'd like some more info, please reach out to support@stephanierigg.com and we'll be happy to help.