Discover the key similarities and differences between fearful avoidant and anxious attachment styles. Learn how both are driven by a fear of abandonment but manifest differently in relationships—especially when it comes to intimacy, conflict resolution, and emotional consistency. Understanding these attachment dynamics can help you foster more secure and balanced connections.

This post explores the fear of losing connection, how to balance self-advocacy with maintaining healthy relationships, and practical steps for honouring your needs without sacrificing intimacy.

When we think about the fear of abandonment, our minds often jump to dramatic scenarios—heart-wrenching breakups, a partner walking out the door, or being left behind by someone we love. These are the situations where the fear of abandonment is most obvious, especially for those of us with an anxious attachment style. However, the reality is that this fear can sneak into our lives in far more subtle and surprising ways.

In this post, I’m sharing 20 (perhaps lesser-known) traits of the anxious attachment style. As always, know that if you relate to these, there’s nothing wrong with you — you’re just doing your best to create safety for yourself, the only way you know how.